The sad fact is type 2 diabetes in children can kill the body. It is important to know exactly what is happening in the body of the child with type 2. The cells of the body are being poisoned by a high poison level of blood glucose. This is very serious and can shorten the life of a young person. Type 2 diabetes in children is a growing problem that must be reversed to save the body of your child.

 

It is important to note that a typical sugar free diet does not stop diabetes. Diabetes can only be reversed when the root cause which is the non insulin sensitivity is fixed. This does not happen with a sugar free diet. Time is the great enemy of the diabetic child. As the parent or child waits the damage continues. Type 2 diabetes in children means they are running out of time.

 

The longer that the problem is not reversed the more damage that is done to the body. Only a diet that can repair the root cause problem can save the child. A diet that does not reverse the diabetes insulin is a waste of time and most cannot.There is some good news. There is a diet that has been reversing type 2 diabetes without diabetic drugs. It is popular in many countries. It has been working for many. See here CLICK HERE type 2 diabetes in children

 

Do not delay to reverse this illness as it can mean heart disease and a shorter life span for your child. It must be taken seriously.


81 thoughts on “Lupus Disease In Children

  1. beano

    how old are you normally when diagnosed with lupus?
    Can lupus be diagnosed in children or is it a disease that you get in middle age

  2. cortlin.harrison

    is this a good research project please be honest?
    Cortlin Harrison Science 10-12
    Mrs. Cooney/ Mrs. Barends ELA 21-23
    May 19, 2009
    Antiphospholipid Syndrome

    Antiphospholipid Syndrome is a disorder in which the body recognizes certain normal components of blood and/or cell membranes as foreign substances and produces antibodies against them. This disorder is non-infectious which means that this disorder can’t be passed from person to person by contact. Pregnant women are more prone to get this disorder than anyone else, and African Americans, and Hispanics but like other disorders anyone can get Antiphospholipid Syndrome

    The symptoms and characteristics of this disorder are not hard to spot. Some symptoms of the disorder are veins or arteries of the arms or legs may cause pain, numbness, tingling in the feet. Arteries of the heart may cause chest pain or heart attack, the individual with this disorder may have heart murmur. In pregnant women with Antiphospholipid Syndrome, miscarriage can occur prior to 20 week of gestation, while pre-eclampsia is reported to occur after that time. Blood vessels of the skin – may cause painful bruises (purpura) or a condition called livedo reticularis. Blood vessels of the brain – if a clot cuts off blood supply to a part of the brain, this causes a stroke. An individual with APS may also experience migraine headaches or seizures.

    There is no cure and there is no way to avoid getting this disorder. There are many treatments for this disorder. But the most successful treatment is anticoagulant therapy. This is usually successful in preventing further blood clots. This disorder can severely damage the body in many different ways because good cells attack other good cells and that causes chaos through the body. And when a weak or strong pathogen enters the body it can be deadly.

    Some other information about Antiphospholipid Syndrome is, 1-5% of the world population is known to have this disorder, and 40-50% of patients with lupus also have APS. One third of strokes occurring in younger people (under the age of 50) are due to Antiphospholipid Syndrome. One third of patients with Antiphospholipid Syndrome are said to have lupus, and or Raynaud disease. APS is more common in young to middle-aged adults; however, it also manifests in children and elderly people. Disease onset has been reported in children as young as 8 months.

    This disorder is very rare and not very deadly but this disorder can still affect your way of life, the way you think, and can make you dizzy and other things. My mom has this disorder and sometimes it’s hard to get around and such, but you can still fight back by eating a healthy diet and seeing a special doctor called a Rheumatologist, this doctor specializes in these types of rare disorders.

  3. Chelsey B

    how do i get a student loan with out a cosigner when my parents have bad credit?
    My parents have bad credit and are not worthy cosigners for loans. i applied for federal, stafford, perkins, private, and all types of loans and have only been able to be approved with a cosigner. However, i do not have a cosigner and with the fall semester all ready underway, i am in desperate need of finanical aid. My mother has a disease called lupus, sometimes affects her work abilities and everyday life, 4 children and is without a job right now and we should be more elidgable for student aid and for federal loans but we were turned down for all of them. What should i do?

  4. PrincessAsh23

    I am sick with Lupus and need help! Can anyone answer my questions? I would like to find someone to talk to!?
    I have been sick afflicted with a mystery illness since I was 13. By the time I was 18, I had a heart problem, liver disease, a ruptured Gallbladder and Peritonitis (infected abdominal cavity) from which I almost died. I am now 23. For the past three years I have had skin rash, mouth sores, nausea, bad joint pain in my knees and shoulders, fevers, tremors and left-side arm/hand weakeness. In the past year I was in the ER for four bouts of Pleurisy, fluid on the heart and Pnemonia.My doctor told me I had Fibromyalgia and Lupus. Now they are suspecting MS (Multiple Sclerosis) as well. I am depressed and I can’t cry anymore. I can’t work and I am tired all the time. I take Vicodon, Percocet, Promethazine and Naprosyn. I still don’t feel well and I am suicidal. I have a good support system but I am tired of being sick. I want to feel good and be young. I want the opportunity to have children and get married. I have a wonderful fiance and he loves me. Can someone give me advice? Hope?

  5. Lisa

    Aspartame cannot cause Lyme disease, but Lyme disease can cause fibromyalgia.

    I agree with you, aspartame is very nasty stuff. It should never have been approved for human consumption.

  6. Sam_I_Am

    Way too much written here – more than two scrolls and you loose people. Anything like this that I get in email – I don’t even bother reading the whole thing. Like now. Who is ‘someone’? – name your sources and put a link that leads to something, and not an unknown URL.

  7. goinscrest

    Is my sister really sick? or munchausen syndrome?
    My sibling has a list of diseases and I don’t want to call her a liar, so I am just wondering if this many conditions is normal, or even probable. She has lied in the past and even tho you forgive and try to forget its so difficult with the multitude of disorders she has. please help! Here is the list she is a 34 yr old female, Fibromialga , Lupus, Diabetes, MS, Rumetoid Arthritis, Epilepsy, Cancer Tumors in the Stomach, and a detatched kidney and needs a transplant and dialisis shots at home???? She avoids anyone taking her to doc but her husband, all our info is through what she says. I want to do the right thing, i recently accused her of having only one disease Munchausen Syndrome, which is having a list of fictisious diseases to get attention. She has children which she has also labelled with Asbergers Syndrome, Diabetes and Bipolar, oh yeah Dislexia. she has disowned me and taken away my seeing my neices and i want to do the right thing if i made a mistake. any help is very appreciated.

    1. Cindy

      Now you know your sibling best but I believe it’s possible for her to have all of these things, but maybe she’s a little confused by the amount of information she is given at the Dr’s office.
      I have Lupus, Right sided brain seizures (I don’t like the term epilepsy), osteoarthritis, reynaud’s syndrome, a mitral valve prolapse, intersticial cystitis, ulcers in my mouth and a couple of other things that I’ve probably forgotten.
      She could very well be confused that she has all of these problems because they test for about everything you have mentioned to rule them out and if the Doctor didn’t give a clear diagnosis she may have just assumed she had these things wrong. (Sorry about that long sentence). I hope that she doesn’t have all these things wrong with her.
      So I guess my answer is, yes it’s possible, but in my opinion not probable.
      Good Luck

  8. helen_knott

    Systemic lupus erythematosus (SLE), also called simply lupus, is a chronic autoimmune condition in which the body creates antibodies, which instead of protecting the body, attack the body’s connective tissues.

    This causes a variety of symptoms that are different in each person with SLE. The symptoms may flare up intermittently and then become less severe but they rarely disappear completely. There is no way of preventing lupus and no cure.

    The precise cause of SLE is not known, but it is not a contagious disease. It can occur at all ages, but is more common in women of child-bearing age, particularly the teens and early twenties. This is significant because one side-effect of lupus is an increased risk of miscarriage.
    sorry this couldn’t be more positive. I’ve taken this from the NHSdirect website, if your in the UK you can phone NHS direct (08454647) and they will get someone to research particular questions for you for more information.

  9. .

    Does Dehydration Cause Neurological and Autoimmune Disorders.?
    I would love to hear your thoughts and comments on the following article?

    “Dehydration Also Causes Neurological and Autoimmune Disorders.
    Persistent dehydration inside some vital cells, in its extreme stages, will result in a number of disruptive conditions that have been labeled as different diseases – depending on the specialty of the “medical specialist” who first labels the problem. The initial stages of these health problems will begin by the loss of some of the most essential amino acids that get used up as detoxifying agents – antioxidants, when the person is not producing enough urine to get rid of the toxic waste of metabolism.

    Since brain activity desperately depends on the presence of some of these amino acids, their depletive overuse will result in an inadequate presence of certain neurotransmitters – such as serotonin, tryptamine, melatonin and indolamine that are made from the amino acid tryptophan; or adrenaline, noradrenalin and dopamine that are made from the amino acid tyrosine.

    As a result of an imbalance in the neurotransmitter composition of the brain, and based on proportionate depletion of a number of primary elements, a wide range of health problems have been recognized by the medical profession. Instead of recognizing these conditions as “deficiency disorders, they have been labeled as “diseases of unknown cause.” In short, when dehydration produces health problems, instead of correcting the dehydration and its metabolic complications, people are given toxic medications.

    These conditions have received various labels. Most frequently used labels are: depression, impotence, anxiety neurosis, chronic fatigue syndrome, attention deficit disorder in children. At more serious pathological stages, they are labeled as autoimmune diseases – such as insulin-dependent or juvenile diabetes, lupus, multiple sclerosis, muscular dystrophy, amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (Lou Gehrig’s disease), Parkinson’s disease, Alzheimer disease, and even AIDS.

    1. ƦєdAиgєℓ

      Anything is possible. However, parkinson’s and alzheimers disease was rare or non existent before the industrial revolution. The link to industrial toxins on the body and auto immune diseases/neurologicial problems is very strong.

  10. joe friday's grrl

    Should I respond or not to someone’s paranoid delusions when they are focused on me as being malevolent?
    I know a 57-year-old woman who lives several states away. When she visited me recently, she not only revealed that she’d been smoking pot for 40 years, but I witnessed her having at least one hallucination, and she was having what appeared to me as obsessiveness over a perceived colusion between traditional medicine (ALL doctors) and pharmaceutical companies (ALL prescription drugs). She weirded me out so bad I ultimately, but politely told her our lifestyles didn’t mesh. My children had also become to dislike her. We parted on what I thought were good tems, but then she started sending me scores of angry and menacing texts. She stopped, but two months later informed me she has cancer at the base of her tongue. Now, six months after she left, she sent me, my mother, and a friend the same weird, two-page rambling letter, in which she blamed me for her cancer, for her dog’s thyroid disease, for another old friend’s lupus, and my infant daughter’s death from a birth defect (more detail)..
    …something that happend over 13 years ago. The letter included bible passages, accusations about me being some other-worldy thing with malevolent spirit, etc. Frankly, it scared my mom to death, because she put in there something about me asking her to KILL my mother, who lives nearby! She went on and on. I was so frightened by the letter (which she used another friend’s return address for), that when she sent a package to me in care of my mother, I literally panicked and called the police. They called the bomb squad. Fortunately, it was not a bomb, but it’s clear that this woman intends to make me fearful and is extremely delusional. I know she has a gun, but also knowing she’s ill (possibly terminal, for all I know) and ten hours away, my frinds think I have no reason to worry about her. I’m still not sure.
    I think the real reason for her anger toward me is that even though she smoked pot all that time and didn’t have routine medical check-ups, in the latter years she was fanatical about eating only organic, using all sort of natural supplements and alternative practitioners. My kids and I pretty much eat whatever we want (including microwavable meals, which she thinks cause cancer), refuse to spend all our time reading labels, we go to doctors & dentists for regular check-ups, and haven’t had so much as a cold for more years than I can remember, nor a single cavity in any of our mouths. I think she’s irate, thinking this is so unfair, and asking “WHY ME?” as she goes through a stage of grief.

    1. Doc

      It’s intense, but it happens. I had a friend do the same thing. (Because I befriend the down-and-outs and people abandoned or with problems – but no more). I told him once what the facts were, and to stop accusing; that he is delusional. I can not stop him from calling 3 times a day and leaving messages, but the important thing is AFTER you have stated your case, do not reply, and sever ties.

  11. Tina S

    How do I stop two adults from creating a baby?
    I really don’t know where to go so, I thought I would give it whirl here..My sibling is 43 yrs old however; “Patty” is a transsexual; born a male trying to change to a female that is turning back to a male. (past history-reports of sexually abusing two children during his/her teenage life) She/He is bipolar, very dangerous bad temper and has the mind set of a 15 year old. “Patty” stopped taking all of her/his medication all at once on the same day…seriously dangerous for all parties involved. “Patty” is always starting fights at work and in personal life. She/he seeks vengeance’s in dark dangerous ways.

    “Patty” has a job however; that’s on shaky ground due to all the problems and fights she/he had created. She/He continues to create problems at work and personal life. Patty relies on our parents for money due to “Lucy” spending it all on alcohol etc. Bums rides to and from the appointed destination. She also dumps all her stress and worry she has caused onto our parents.

    “Patty” does NOT care that our father has had several strokes & T.I.A’s. He has been warned by a cardiologist that if he has one more stroke it could kill him this time. Our Mother is sick with cardiological problems. She has had open heart surgery and zapped with the heart paddles to start her heart two different occasions recently. She also suffers with mental illnesses.

    I’m also not well. I’ve had 19 operations in my abdominal region with many diseases including precancerous tumours, Lupus, Fibromyalgia…..blah blah blah I count my blessings everyday when I have a day where I can get out of bed. I’ve had to be put on life support after my last three operations. I’m not on life support now. My husband is healthy minus the hair loss due too all this stress…lol

    The sexual partner “Lucy” is 29 yrs old. She was born a female and remains to be female however; she has the maturity level of a 10 yr old. She works and spends every pay cheque on junk, alcohol and cigarettes. She does NOT pay her part of the rent, food or bills. She goes out partying every night and sleeps around with pretty much anybody. She stopped taking her Bipolar medication and other medication all at once on the same day. She’s 5 weeks pregnant with my sister/brother’s baby. Neither of them are under the care of a doctor and “Lucy” does NOT take vitamin supplements or folic acid. She is not taking prenatal classes or anything for that matter and does NOT eat anything healthy.

    She goes through phases like getting a cat and when she’s bored with it she ignores it, does NOT feed or take care of it. She also has had a kikachu once again, she got bored of it, ignored it and did not take care of it. She wanted to get a ferret however; thankfully that didn’t pan out in her favor. Now, it’s the baby phase. She’s made arrangements to have her mother to take care of the baby when she loses interest in the baby. The mother is mentally ill, has had her autistic son taken away because she beat the crap out of the child to him shut-up.

    I can tell you more however; I really don’t think it’s necessary because you all can see how badly it’s turning out for everyone especially the 5 week old fetus.

    Plus, their apartment is infested with fleas and smell to the heavens like cat urine.
    We are all born and raised Canadian and still live in Canada.

    Can anybody help me because if I can’t do anything then a child will be born into this world….I much rather not say :0( You get the point…right?
    I send big HUGS out to everybody that has offered suggestions…..Thank you very much!

  12. janeysmithster

    My auto-immune disease is detroying my life? I want to end it.?
    I have lived with an auto-immune disease all my life, and never knew i had it until 2 years ago.

    I knew i had chronic asthma, eczema, and food allergies but during a routine blood test it was found that i had a mild form of connective tissue disease, something like Lupus.

    It has got increasingly worse over college to the point where i had to drop out and return a year later. It was during this time off that i decided my life wasnt worth living as i was bed bound and i was suprised at how quickly friends and family alike dumped me since i had no life outside the home.

    I tried to hold down a job but i had to take time off and they made ME feel guilty about it, pulled me into rooms to let me know i was letting everyone down and basically kicking me when i was down to the point i got admitted into hospital. On my return they made my life hell and i was eventually fired for tellin a manager to fuck off.

    Now that i have graduated, and got alot of praise for doing so, i have no life. College gave me the basis for all social, educational well being. Everyone knew i was ill so understood when i wasnt there.

    No trying to get a job has been a nightmare. I decided to go on benefits but they sent me to a doctor who said i was fit to work. A week later i had a big flare up so my own GP wrote a letter stating that i couldnt work and since i have been on incapacity, which im too ashamed to tell anyone about.

    My relationship with my Bf has been at breaking point, he has even suggested im exadurrating as have my friends, but im in so much pain with it all that this week end (after cancelling a week end away with my BF) i though about ending it all. I took some anti depressants but they dont help if anything they make me feel empty and alone .

    I dont want a life where i do nothing, all my friends are either abraod, having children , getting married all these exciting things that i cant do.Im so tired of going from one blood test ot another, or one examination to another, and fighting to get medication that might help me . Doctors have always told me it might get better but how long can i live like this seriously? I dont even feel an ounce of happiness and im irritated becasue im always been at my friends back and call and now that i cant go out like i did they have all moved on and dont even bother calling and when they do and i say im ill they always say things like “youre ALWAYS ill” . I tried a support group, it didnt help if anything i found it a bit like giving up on a norm life?
    PLEASE NOTE IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM DO I WANT TO BE ILL. HAD ALL THIS CRAP ALREADY.

    1. Angelbunny17

      Hello. Your post broke my heart, because i know EXACTLY how you feel. I have an autoimmune disease also, and i have no life at all anymore. I haven’t left my house for 6 months. I got so sick of doctors, being in the hospital, going through hundreds of tests ( blood tests, cat scans, mri’s, etc. ), that i’ve just stopped going , and i just don’t care anymore. I will never be well again, so what’s the point. I can no longer do any of things that i use to enjoy doing, my husband left me, and all my friends stopped calling, because they got sick of me not wanting to do anything anymore ( like that’s my fault ). Nobody has really helped me, or stuck by me, through this. I’m totally alone, and i feel like i did something wrong, because nobody wants to be around me anymore. I don’t understand why just because i got sick, everybody just bailed on me. I guess they probably never cared in the first place. I have a hard time trying to find a reason to live every day. I just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone. I know how you feel, and i’m really sorry that you have to feel this way. Unless somebody has been through it, they can’t possible understand how awful it is. Take care.

  13. Margaux

    My neighbor said she has Lupus and Raynaud’s phenomenon, can she still work?
    My neighbor receives CPP Disability because she have Lupus, but she volunteers 3 to 4 x a week as a librarian where her children goes, I see her carrying her 5 1/2 year old son every time I see her. If she can work as a volunteer in a library, how come she cannot work part-time with a light work involved like in an office? How severe can Lupus should be in order for her to qualify for CPP Disability? She looks healthy to me and she said her disease is manageable.

    1. ExeneC

      A doctor has told the government that she is unable to work due to a severe disability. If this is an exaggeration or untrue, it is fraud but unfortunately very common.

  14. ceebs

    ANA Positive… Should I try to get pregnant?
    Hello,

    I’m new to this board but come here seeking advice and support because I’m scared. I found out yesterday I am ANA positive (1:80 titer) with no symptoms. My mom has advanced lupus, and family history of autoimmune.

    We were trying for our second child (after two early miscarriages) when I found out I am ANA positive with speckled pattern.

    Do you think there’s a risk of triggering full-blown lupus with a second child? Does the stress on your body during pregnancy make a predisposition trigger disease? I’d really love insight… I’m at a crossroads, and want to make sure I don’t jeopardize my health or my family in the future.

    Thank you for any insight!

    Ceebs

    1. mgunnycappo

      I would check to see if you have Antiphospholipid Syndrome or APS that often accompanies lupus. APS is the main reason for miscarriage in Lupus. Since you’ve already have a miscarriage and you have a positive ANA (although 1:80 is a very low positive), and you have a family history I would definitely get checked for APS. They should also run a complete Lupus panel on you including Anti-SM, Anti-Ro, Anti-DS-DNA. If you test positive for any of these it is extremely likely that you have Lupus. If you do not test positive you could still have Lupus.

      Pregnancy can bring on Lupus symptoms due to the hormonal changes, stress on the body and the baby itself. In some women there are reports that pregnancy sometimes quiets a Lupus flare but the former is much more prevailant.

      I would discuss all of this first with a rheumatologist then with a high risk OB/GYN.

      Good luck to you.

  15. gayatri t

    U know what it is not easy to use a wheel even after years of practice u can still mess up because u have to cordinate ur own force with the motion and speed of the wheel. I don’t want you to waste your money thats why i am saying that u can sculpt and make molds in pop and do slip casting instead it will be much easier and will pay off well. As far as wheel is concerned go for it only when u are dead sure of your skill.

  16. PC

    Constant pain – no answers?
    I have constant pain in my feet and hands. Moderate to severe pain in my jaw – causes sometimes ear aches and headaches. Now the pain seems to be setting up shop in my back, one elbow and both knees. I have been seen by several doctors, reumotologist, neurologist, etc. for the past 3 years. No one has any answers or Solutions. They have ruled out lupus, lyme disease, carpal tunnel, nerve disorders and I have tested negative for Rheumatoid. They have tried several steroids, with no affect.Even an antidepressant to “rewire my brain”. that did not work either. Now they just give me pain meds that i hate. I take tylenol/aspirin or motrin several times a day and an occasional hydrocodone.

    I don’t sleep, exercise makes everything worse and my constant fatigue encourages poor eating habits. (I crave caffeine and sugar when sleepy) I have found no relief and am having more and more trouble keeping up with my 3 small children (4, 3, &1).

    I have come to the point where I do not know what to try next. The last word from the doctor was wait and see. uhhh!!

    Does any one know what it could be or what I should do?
    I have been told my symptoms do not fit Fibromyalgia

  17. Princess2008

    I’m Lost, Frustrated And Really Don’t Know What To Do??? Please HELP!!!!?
    My mom passed away about 4 years ago, my dad has remarried since (about 4 months after my mom passed away). Since she passed away my dad has felt that my moms way of raising kids wasnt’ the best and decided to change it and start raising them the way he thinks is the right way. My dad believes he doesn’t do anything wrong and that it is all his kids fault. He is very overbearing and when we were younger he was on the road making money for our family to survive, so we all weren’t that close with our father. He what some would call guilts people into what he wants them to do. Like our first born child he says oh i never get to see him he won’t remember who i am…yet he is fully capable of taking him whenever he like and i have taken him to his house lots. My brother(18) didn’t like our step mother and had a fight with her so my dad kicked him out, i talked to him and offered to let him stay with us if he wanted to. When i didn’t openly tell him my brother was living with us he staked out our house and when we got home he said i’m nothing but a liar and a bad daughter and to have nothing to do with him anymore. We worked things out awhile later and were talking again, and at our sons birthday party they both ended up coming and that started them on their way to talking things out and now they are apparently the best of friends, he got his own place at the beginning of this year. My youngest sister (16) ran away when she turned 16 and decided to go live with someone that isn’t the best person to be living with. my dad believes that if he has a problem with someone in our family everyone else should have a problem with that person cause thats how a close net family works. (i don’t really agree with that) She is pregnant and I later found out that her bf was abusing her (mentally,physically, emotionally) the only reason he hadn’t hit her in the last 8 weeks is cause she is pregnant. I am not the kind of person to stand by and let someone especially my sister be abused so i called the cops and got her out of there and she is now living with me. She still needs lots of help as she feels that the baby is going to change her babies dad and that he won’t be the way he is now. My dad felt I wasn’t calling enough or going over enoug. I just stopped working not long ago as I am pregnant and it isn’t safe for me to work anymore but when i was working i was working the odd shift and by the time i got home i was way too tired to do anything and just went to bed. I also don’t think its worth calling someone if you really have nothing to say however my dad feels i should call him everyday. So I went to his house the other day just to visit and i told him openly that my sister was living with us, he didn’t really say much except that he kinda regrets having kids as they are a disappointment and he can’t even enjoy having kids, that we keep hurting him and that we are pushing him out of our lives. I told him my sister getting pregnant is nothing compared to what my other sister (18) is doing like drugs, drinking, meeting random people and sleeping with whoever, whenever she wants. His response to that was let her do you even know what she is going through? He said she has a life threatening disease (lupus), her family doesn’t really have anything to do with her hardly, she has a hard time keeping a friend. So if she wants to go do drugs, or meet random people or do whatever let her cause she is going through alot. I am so lost on what to do, I really want to tell my family off as I do have 2 kids and I believe they should know their grandparents but on the other hand its getting ridiculous and I really don’t want to play this childish game anymore. I want to move away from here as ever since we moved here when we were younger its been nothing but hassle and drama. I want a change however my parents family also lives here and my husband doesn’t really want to move away. Can anyone please help me I am really lost and don’t know what to do anymore!!!

  18. just me

    dh wants to ask adult son to take dna test?
    my husband has skin lupus which is a terrible disease that is uncurable (skin lupus attacks healthy skin cells) my husbands skin on his face looks like alligator skin…anyway he has always had his doubt on the son he had with his ex if it was his…the son is now 19 and my hubby wants to know for his peace of mind and also because skin lupus is genetic it could be passed on to his son if he is his…there is no cure but there a preventive measures the son could take to lesson the severity…anyway my husband hasnt seen or talked to this child in ten years ….so in peoples honest opinion should his son be asked, do you think he would want to know he could end up like my hubby or they could find out my hubby is not the dad which Im not sure the effect it would have on everyone around them…and before you ask no the child looks nothing like hubby but there is more detail to this story but more hubbys personal stuff with his ex
    Im not saying what my husband did was right or wrong…that is why I said the other side was private….i will add he tried to see his son but the ex not hubby made it impossible…
    also to add I had a male friend who his mother told him that a certain man was his father…my friend always had doubts so they went and had a dna test done and naturally the father wasnt his…he found out later from his mom his real dad died from a heart defect….which 2 years earlier he had a daughter who died of the same heart defect….if they had known they could have told the doctors this….sometimes maybe the truth could hurt but sometimes the truth can save I thought I would get answers to the question not a judgement on what hubby did was right or wrong…but thanks for your comments

  19. Bill W

    CELIAC – test result help interpret?
    I had the genetic test done through entero lab. Got results on 9/11
    Interpretation Of HLA-DQ Testing: HLA-DQB1 gene analysis reveals that you have one of the main genes that predisposes to gluten sensitivity and celiac sprue, HLA-DQB1*0201 or HLA-DQB1*0302. Each of your offspring has a 50% chance of receiving this gene from you, and at least one of your parents passed it to you. You also have a non-celiac gene predisposing to gluten sensitivity (any DQ1, DQ2 not by HLA-DQB1*0201, or DQ3 not by HLA-DQB1*0302). Having one celiac gene and one gluten sensitive gene, means that each of your parents, and all of your children (if you have them) will possess at least one copy of a gluten sensitive gene. Having two copies also means there is an even stronger predisposition to gluten sensitivity than having one gene and the resultant immunologic gluten sensitivity or celiac disease may be more severe.
    Went gluten free with some mistakes here and there(I’m still learning) on sep 6th just to see what would happen b-4 I got results back. Then stayed gluten free after results. My husband is concerned I’m not eating right because I’m already a vegetarian. He wanted me to get more of a difinative result. After all I’ve read you need to be eating gluten to have the correct result. So I ate soy sauce and floured gravy the night b-4 the test. Blood drawn 9/26 3 weeks after going gluten free with some learning mistakes. 1st question will 3 weeks affect the test? 2nd question got the test results today over the phone talked with the nurse that said she didn’t know how to interpret the results but she could give me the numbers. ttg ab-igg 4 & ttg ab-iga 6 does anyone know what that means? I’ve been searching the web for something and everything is sooo confusing.
    My main symptom is constipation which has gone away since going gluten free. You may say well then stay gluten free if it is making you less constipated, but I’m not sure if it’s wheat or gluten and can I eat it occasionally? At home it is easy to stay gluten free but eating out is so hard.
    Family history -no one in my family has been diagnosed although my aunt on my dad side died of lupus age of 50 and was diagnosed age of 13. My dad had severe allergies as a child that no one could figure out what he was allergic to and now he has diabetes. As far as allergies go he seems fine now. His mother has arthritis. The thing is I kind of want a difinative answer too because no one in my family is taking this seriously.

    why I’m a vegetarian is going to sound silly but when I was little my mom read Little House on the Prarie to me and that is when I realized we eat and slaughter animals. I can’t imagine eating it and I never liked the smell of fish.

  20. Mary

    I recently was diagnosed with Lupus, will this change my life?
    I’m 24yrs old and plan on at least having one more child. I work a very fast paced physical job. I don’t understand this disease because it seems so varied. Will it affect me now or later in life?

    1. justchillin

      Lupus affects everyone in different ways; it is hard to diagnose and just as hard to predict its progression. My sister-in-law has been suffering with Lupus for several years and has had many symptoms come and go. An acquaintance of mine lost her life to Lupus; so having a physician who is very well versed on Lupus is mandatory. Get other opinions and work very hard researching the disease yourself. Best wishes.

  21. Ghost

    Is healing for the spiritual man or physical man?
    I ask this question because recently four months ago I became attacked in my body with swelling in my hands, feet, knees, and shoulders. At the time I didn’t know what was taking place, I just thought that maybe I had done too much that may have caused the swelling. I would go to church limping and asking for prayer. The church members and leaders did pray for me, but this thing was not going anywhere. the swelling was getting worst by the day. Finally I decide to go to the doctor to find out what was the cause of the swelling. I was given x-rays of the hands to see if the swelling was caused by lupus or rheumatoid arthritis. Tests came back revealing rheumatoid arthritis. I’m thinking how did I get this, I’m not old. I find out that rheumatoid arthritis is not an old age disease, because there are children and babies born with RA, but it is caused when the immune system becomes attacked by its own antibodies that were supposed to protect against viruses and disease but becomes confused thinking that the healthy cells are the enemy cells, and they attack because the cells look alike. Anyway, I took this information back to the church thinking I was doing a good thing, but instead I was made to feel like I had sinned in which this was the reason for the sickness. My question, is healing for the spritit man that whatever is taking place in the physical man will not effect us because our spiritual man has been strenghtened. Everyone has prayed, but yet this thing has not gone anywhere.

    1. Amy

      Find a new church. RA is not caused by sin or anything that you supposedly did. As you say, small children whao are supposedly sinless have this disease. Germs do not discriminate or prejudge you.

      Healing is for both the spiritual and physical aspects. Real healing effects a transformation. Prayers my not always work on diseases like RA. Get medical tratment.

  22. feroscious

    What could be the case of hip and joint paint to the point of not being able to sit or stand in a 10 yr old?
    He’s been sick for 4 months now and on the waiting for UCLA Children’s Hospital. All the blood tests are coming back normal as well as the MRI. The only thing he tested positive for was the rheumatoid factor (and slightly anemic) but he doesn’t have rheumatoid arthritis per 2 doctors. He’s starting to lose his balance when he stands/walks and can’t sit down for any amount of time without pain from the hips down to the ankles (including the muscles). The only comfortable position he can be in with the least amount of pain is flat on the floor – even sleeping on an extremely comfortable mattress hurts. Regardless of where he sleeps at night, he is woken up in the middle of the night with pain. He is taking naprosyn per the UCLA doctor until he can get in to see her. Has anyone else experienced this or know anything about this? He was negative for lupus, mono, lyme disease, ankylosing spondylitis.
    We are on the waiting list for a pediatric neurologist and pediatric ophthalmologist also. Watching my son in pain and being stuck in limbo because of the “system” is so frustrating. If it were their children they would see him. Our family doctor keeps calling to emphasize the urgency but it’s gotten us nowhere so far.

    1. Bliss J

      Is it possible he’s suffering from a form of dysplasia or fibromyalgia? Cushing’s Disease shares some of the symptoms as well, but that’s highly doubtful. The only other thing that crosses my mind would be MS or MD, but I’m sure he’s been tested for that already.

      On a brighter note, I do recommend looking into a SelectComfort Sleep Number bed for his comfort! SelectComfort provides units for both the Ronald McDonald House as well as for patients with cerebral palsy in order to aid in their patients’ comfort while resting/sleeping–they’re medically proven to be the only bed that measurably helps patients rest.

      I hope this helps a little–and you and the boy will be in our prayers…

  23. Dawn C

    did u know? i got this in the email?
    Reading this information & sharing it, might mean saving a life or improving the quality of someone’s life, maybe yours.

    In October of 2001, my sister started getting very sick, she had stomach spasms, she was having a hard time getting around, and to walk was a major chore. It took everything she had just to get out of bed; she was in so much pain.

    By March 2002, she had undergone biopsies, and was on 24 various prescription medications. The doctors could not figure out what was wrong with her. She was in so
    much pain, and so sick, she knew she was dying. She put her house, bank accounts, life
    insurance, etc., in her oldest daughters name, and made sure her younger children were to be with her oldest daughter. She wanted her last hooray, so she planned a trip to Florida (basically in a wheelchair) for March 22nd. On March 19th I called her to ask her how one of her tests went, and she said they didn’t find anything on the test, but they believe she had MS. I thought, oh, my…. then I recalled an article a friend of mine emailed to me…and I asked her…. Do you drink Diet pop?

    She told me yes, as a matter of fact she was getting ready to crack one open that
    moment. I told her not to open it, and stop drinking the diet pop…. and I emailed her the following article.

    She called me within 32 hours after our phone conversation and told me she stopped drinking the diet pop, and she can walk. She went up the stairs, and the muscle spasms went away. She said she didn’t feel 100% well, but sure felt a lot better. She told me she was going to her doctor with this article and would call me back when she got home.

    She called me, and her doctor was amazed, he is going to call all of his MS patients to find out if they consumed artificial sweetener!

    In a nutshell she was being poisoned by the aspartame in the diet soda, dying a slow death!

    When she got to FL March 22nd, all she had to take was one pill, and that was a pill for poisoning… she is well on her way to recovery… and she is walking!!! No wheelchair!!!
    This article saved her life!!!

    The life saving article:

    If it says “SUGAR FREE,” on the label, DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT IT!
    Have spent several days lecturing at the WORLD ENVIRONMENTAL CONFERENCE on “ASPARTAME” marketed as ‘NutraSweet,’ ‘Equal,’ and ‘Spoonful.’ In the keynote
    address by the EPA, it was announced that in the United States in 2001 there is an epidemic of multiple sclerosis and systemic lupus, that it was hard to understand what toxin was causing this to be rampant. I stood up and said that I was there to lecture on exactly that subject.

    I will explain why Aspartame is so dangerous:
    When the temperature of this sweetener exceeds 86 degrees F, the wood alcohol in ASPARTAME converts to Formaldehyde, and then to formic acid, which in turn causes metabolic acidosis. (Formic acid is the poison found in the sting of fire ants.)

    The methane toxicity mimics, among other conditions, multiple sclerosis. People were being diagnosed with having multiple sclerosis in error. The multiple sclerosis is not a
    death sentence, where methanol toxicity is!

    Systemic lupus has become almost as rampant as multiple sclerosis; especially with Diet Coke and Diet Pepsi drinkers. The victim usually does not know that the aspartame is the culprit. He or she continues its use, irritating the lupus to such a degree that it may become life threatening. We have seen patients with systemic lupus become asymptomatic once taken off diet sodas. In the case of those diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis, (when in reality, the disease is methanol toxicity), most of the symptoms disappear. We’ve seen many cases where vision returned and hearing improved markedly.

    This also applies to cases of tinnitus
    .
    During the lecture I said, “If you are using ASPARTAME (NutraSweet, Equal, Spoonful, etc.) And you suffer from fibromyalgia symptoms, spasms, shooting pains, numbness in your legs, cramps, vertigo, dizziness, headaches, tinnitus, joint pain, depression, anxiety attacks, slurred speech, blurred vision, or memory loss…. you probably have ASPARTAME DISEASE!”

    People were jumping up during the lecture saying, I’ve got some of these symptoms: Is it reversible? Yes!

    Not drinking diet sodas and keeping an eye out for aspartame on food labels. Yes!

    We have a very serious problem. A stranger came up to Dr. Espisto (one of my speakers) and me and said: “Could you tell me why so many people seem to be coming down with MS? During a visit to a hospice, a nurse said that six of her friends, who were heavy Diet Coke addicts, had all been diagnosed with MS. This is beyond coincidence!

    Diet Coke and Diet Pepsi, etc. are NOT A DIET PRODUCT!
    The Congressional Record states that it makes you crave carbohydrates and will make you FAT. The formaldehyde stores in the fat cells, particularly if no significant increase in exercise, etc.

    Aspartame is especially dangerous for diabetics. We found that physicians would believe that they have a patient with retinopathy, when in fact the symptoms are caused by aspartame! The aspartame drives the blood sugar out of control! Thus diabetics may suffer acute memory loss due to the fact that aspartic acid and phenylalanine are neurotoxin without the other amino acids found in protein. Thus it passes the blood brain barrier and deteriorates the neurons of the brain, causing in diabetics (as well as in patients not suffering from diabetes) various kinds of brain damage, seizures, depression, manic seizures, manic depression, panic attacks, rage, and violence. (The Aspartame in thousands of pallets of diet Coke and diet Pepsi, consumed by men and women fighting in the Gulf War may be partially to blame for the well-known Gulf War Syndrome.)

    Dr. Roberts warns that it can cause birth defects: i.e. mental retardation if taken at the time of conception and early pregnancy. Children are especially at risk for neurological disorders and should NOT be given NutraSweet. I can relate different case histories of children having mal seizures and other disturbances, being on NutraSweet. Unfortunately it is not always easy to convince a mother that aspartame is to blame for her child’s illness. Only by trial and success will she be able to warn other mothers to take their children’s health into their own hands.

    Stevia, a sweet herb, NOT A MANUFACTURED ADDITIVE, which helps in the metabolism of sugar (which would be ideal for diabetics) has now been approved as a dietary supplement by the FDA. For years the FDA has outlawed this sweet food because of their loyalty to MONSANTO.

    Books on this subject are available: EXCITOTOXINS: THE TASTE THAT KILLS written by Dr. Russell Blayblock (Health Press 1-800-643-2665) and
    DEFENSE AGAINST ALZHEIMER’S DISEASE – written by DR H. J. Roberts, also a diabetic specialist.

    These two doctors will be posting a position paper with some case histories on the deadly effects of Aspartame on the Internet.

    According to the Conference of the American College of Physicians “we are talking about a plague of neurological diseases caused by this deadly poison.”

    Here is the problem: There were Congressional Hearings when aspartame was included in 100 different products. Since this initial hearing, there have been two subsequent hearings, but to no avail. Nothing has been done. The drug and chemical lobbies have very deep pockets. Now there are over 5,000 products containing this chemical, and the PATENT HAS EXPIRED!!!!!

    I assure you, MONSANTO, the creator of Aspartame knows how deadly it is. They fund among others, the American Diabetes Association, the American Dietetic Association, the
    Conference of the American College of Physicians.

    This has been exposed in the New York Times – to no avail. These Associations cannot criticize any additives or convey their link to MONSANTO because they take money from the food industry and have to endorse their products.

    Senator Howard Hetzenbaum wrote a bill that would have warned all infants, pregnant mothers and children of the dangers of aspartame. The bill would have also instituted independent studies on the problems existing in the population (seizures, changes in brain chemistry, changes neurological and behavioral symptoms). It was killed by the powerful drug and chemical lobbies, letting loose the hounds of disease and death on an unsuspecting public!
    i got this in an email. so read it, even if u thing wtf, lol casue it could be useful some time for someone

  24. George W. Bush

    My wife has filed for divorce and made false allegations against me. What should I do?
    We were married 15 yrs. ago. Two weeks after the wedding she was struck with Lupus(a chronic disease). She saw many doctors during the illness. I drove and waited patiently. She took a host of drugs. My company plan paid.

    I received regularly complements from her mother/sisters that I was a good man to stay with her.

    She got better three years ago, and we decided to have a child. Our daughter is healthy and active.

    After the baby arrived, my wife claimed that she had had repressed memories of sexual abuse by her father. She claimed her father attacked all the three sisters. The mother and all the sisters claim this is false.

    She started attending SA workshops. They are run by man-hating feminists. They convinced her that her father, me, and every other man in the world are bad.

    I was out of the country last month. She filed for divorce, went to court claiming I am abusive, and now I am forbidden to go back to my house. She emptied the bank accounts.

    Women are out of control.
    Looking at the responses. Generally,
    Men say “get a lawyer”
    Women say “she needs help”

    If a man commits a wrong, women suggest he goes to jail. When a woman commits a wrong, women say “she needs help”.

    This confirms that women are indeed out of control.

    1. Bonzai Betty

      Your only option is to get a VERY GOOD and VICIOUS lawyer. She can not claim abuse to the courts without having ever filed a complaint with police. You can very easily be screwed if you do not have proper representation. Fight for full custody of your child, because this woman is sick!

  25. sam i am

    I need an upper partial, so I can smile and have a better chance of getting a job. What will it cost? Read on.
    I’ve lived a dental nightmare all of my life. Born with three sets of teeth, I required oral surgery three times by the age of 8yrs. Braces from age 10 to 15yrs. Retainer til I was 18. Combination of Systemic Lupus, and Hashimoto’s disease, both of which can adversely effect teeth. I’m 40 now, I’ve had 21 root canals, most of which went bad because previous insurance wouldn’t approve crowns after treatment. What I’m left with is #’s: 3, 4, 9, 11, and 15 in my upper teeth. Unemployed and broke, I don’t stand a chance of getting a job if I can’t smile during my interview. I have two children, and just under $1,000 to my name. I’m a recent single mom. I desperately need at least an upper partial, so I can go out and get a job with confidence. How much am I looking at spending? All answers are appreciated, but especially dental practices in So. Calif., because this is where I’m located, and sometimes costs vary with geographic location. Thank You.

  26. Crystal W

    Can I get into Columbia University?
    I am an asian junior and want to know which schools I can apply for. (i.e. Columbia) I recently received my SAT scores: 790-math, 700-reading, and 790-writing (2280). I am treasurer of Math club, treasurer of Spanish Club, a researcher for Fed Challenge, a member of Model UN and Interact. I am also in the Biology II Science League Team. I have a weighted GPA of 4.31, and am in all honors/AP classes. I also take art courses and have built a portfolio (8 pieces). I have finished up to Level 7 for piano in the Associated Board of the Royal Schools, Level 5 for Music Theory, and have several other honors. I plan on taking the SAT IIs (Math/Hist/Bio) I volunteered in a Chinese orphanage, a school for disabled children, a genetics lab, the local library, and at the local hospital.(200+ hrs) I am in the top 1-2%. However, because of an autoimmune disease (lupus), I cannot participate in certain activities (sports) . I am afraid because of my low SAT reading. Suggestions?

    1. inlovewithlife08

      extremely good SAT!!! Based on just your scores, you should be fine. However, admission to Columbia is highly selective and almost all other applicants are going to have scores close to or even higher than yours. Definitely stand out! My best friend got into Columbia ED this year, here are her stats:

      SAT: 2240 (like I said, your SAT looks good!)
      GPA: 3.98
      multiple leadership positions
      GHP (governor’s honor program)
      very unique essay
      top 5% of class

      she applied to the school of Engineering, which actually accepts 20% of all applicants

  27. Print the nin died for Limeninja

    Forget about missing limbs, how come god never cures retardation?
    I mean, these are people who probably get more prayers as fetuses, infants and children than all the amputees in the world put together.

    Yet he never seems to remap the genes of Down’s Syndrome victims, or repair the damage from fetal alcohol syndrome.

    Nor dose he seem to have been interested in curing any cases of Cystic Fibrosis, Lupus, Haemophilia,Tay-Sachs disease, or Sickle Cell Anemia. I guess the prayers of all these victims and their families specifically fall on deaf ears.

    An how about midgets? I guess he just wants all of them to be short no matter how many of them pray for a little height.

    Yet he does seem to cure an awful lot of migranes, backaches, mysterious forms of paralysis, and excessive perspiration problems.
    J7
    Newspaper articles are hardly proof, and besides, the kid had an I.Q. of 92… which is hardly retarded. It’s a little bit below average. Let’s see what John Hopkins thinks of this kid.

    And there has NEVER been a confirmed case of an amputated limb growing back. If you know of one, post your source.

    1. Chinese Swede - let God be God

      God does not cure retardation, for a couple of reasons:

      1. I know that some of the most important things of life are actually more plainly seen and grasped by the mentally retarded than the most erudite scholar…. God uses the foolish things of the world to shame the wise, the weak things of the world to shame the strong (1 Corinthians 1.27)….
      2. To those parts of the body (humanity) that are embarrassing and without honor, God gives special honor (1 Corinthians 12, verse 22 especially).

      EDIT: Wow, 4 thumbs down and a “shut the *bleep* up”….

      Hey Foxy, have you been to a L’Arche community, like I have, worked with men and women with broken bodies and a locked up minds, yet – inspite of all that darkness and death and bitterness – still seen God move in the hearts of people?

      I also have cousins and siblings/children of friends with all manner of problems like those in PN’s question. Also, I was an “adjunct assistant” (helped friends who were assistants) in university to friends with cystic fibrosis and MS.

      And, while some have expressed the bitterness that you have demonstrated by your typed words, (often towards “an unfair God/god”), for some reason that I cannot fully comprehend, all in my circle have been moved at the core of their being to thankfulness, healing and wholeness IN SPITE of the externalities of their situation.

      While not “effective” and “efficient” and “productive”, and therefore, “valuable” as our capitalist society sees “value”, these men and women – my friends on a whole other level – have shown me that they have value in and of themselves. They have even pointed me towards the One that gives them that value….

      I have had the most real signs of deep affection from my friends with Downs…. Deep affection that shows how hollow and conditional in my affection I am; this has been hard for me to face myself, but Someone has been gracious.

      ****
      I would strongly recommend checking out the site below in my sources, as well as any of Henri Nouwen’s later writings. Henri spent the last many years of his life in one of the L’Arche communities in the Great Toronto Area, called L’Arche Daybreak, north of Metropolitan Toronto. He was an attendant and friend – in all that those terms mean – for Bill, when before that he was a well-respected Roman Catholic Priest and a Harvard scholar.

  28. mb

    Need help for my mom. Understanding diabetes!!?
    Okay so my mom has been going through a lot of issues she was diagnosed with lupus about 2 years ago and ever since she has been having many problems which results in her taking more medication to contain one disease but then the medicine that is supposed to help one disease causes another so now she has been diagnosed with sugar diabetes and she is confused and refusing to take insulin because she doesn’t want needles around her children so she is trying to study her diet so she won’t have to take the insulin
    so i have a few questions and it will be so much help
    what is too high or too low for your blood sugar level?
    what is a normal blood sugar level for a diabetic?
    can you be hypoglycemic and hyperglycemic?
    are you supposed to test your blood after and before every meal?
    what foods are good for her to eat?
    are there any desserts that won’t effect her?
    these are all the questions i have but any and all the information will help i am really interested in finding out as much as possible to help her keep on track
    thanks so much

  29. broken_angel

    Should I nominate my daughter for Make-A-Wish?
    I have a 3 yr old who was diagnosed with Overlap Disease. Its a mix of Lupus, Arthritis, Scleroderma, & Myositis (inflammatory disease). Although she has gotten a little better, she has been through so much. She still has a long way to go… I just want her to have a special memory to help replace the bad ones. Although she is in no immediate danger, it can easily become that way if it wasn’t for all the meds. The MAW site says a parent, doctor, or child life specialist has to make the nomination. I feel a little ackward nominating her myself, but I really want this for her. I am not even sure if she qualifies…. It has to be life threatening. Her illness is chronic & CAN become life threatening. Myositis itself is reconized by MAW. But hers is not full blown case. I don’t want to waste anyones time if she doesn’t qualify….especially since they contact her doctors & all. Any advice would help…thank you.

    1. aestatisa

      There is really no harm in applying. Go for it!

      Yes, they do require that a condition is life-threatening. She may be rejected because, even though she’s been through a ton, there is good hope that she’ll still make it through. However, I’m not on the make-a-wish staff–I don’t make these calls. I’d say she deserves a wish.

      Yes, you could end up wasting someone’s time. However, I don’t think anyone would really think of it as a waste. What doctor is going to hate you for trying to bring more joy into your child’s life? A good doctor realizes that there is significant medical research showing that happy, positive patients tend to have a better chance of making it.

      If you’re really worried about your doctrs, talk to them first. Bring up the issue, and ask if it’s okay if you refer her, or even ask your doctor to do the referral.

      She’s definitely in the group that they’re looking to help. No one will resent you for this. Go for it. The worst case scenario, really, is that she doesn’t get the wish from that one organization.

      You can still do everything you can to make her wish happen anyway. Direct contact with an organization, a plea for a sick child for special visitation privileges, a fundraiser in your community to provide money to fulfill her wish–these can all make things happen.

      Your child deserves to have her wish fulfilled. Refer her! If they turn you down, make it happen anyway!

  30. reena

    Someone tell me am i defeated or do i have another way of looking at things!! HELP!!?
    In February, after spending 3 months prior trying to find my sister another home for our father, (she called every morning griping, complaining and just plain disrespectful about him) she called me very upset and gave me, 2 wks to find him another place to live, nursing home i dont care..just get him out. (he lived with her, her husband and son for 2yrs)..she has mental depression dr. told her bipolar but she refused to discuss it or take meds…she has been like this all her life. Because my father has no dementia, there is nothing really wrong with him, and because he lived in sadness and depression with her never left his room to try to avoid her and the family (one time he fell trying to look in his closet and she ranted and raved to all of us “why in the hell was he in his closet anyhow” i realized there was nothing i could do or say because we where happy that he was not in a nursing home ( he had been there b4, it was awful) none of my other sisters could take him and because i am single, 1 son and full of compassion for a man who treated me like shit all my life i took him…
    it has been since february, i couldnt find a 3 bedroom for under 800 and all utilities so we bought a house, funny the problem is not dad…did i mention that my 8 yr old has adhd, ocd, anger issues and possible bipolar, did i mention that i have lupus, raynauds, sjorgens, scleroderma, hypothryroidism, acid reflux disease, nueropathy, depression caused by all of the above and i am only 39…so the above comes to pass…no problem
    but here comes my 2 sisters, the others (theres 11 of us..9 who dont give a shit) one who is old school , self serving and literally told me he didnt raise me i have to obligation she failed to say that in her last TWO marriages with 2 kids and a grandchild she moved back to dads house it seemed her past was not an issue then…the second feels so guilty (she is daddy’s little girl although i am the baby of the family, i am the youngest..and NO i am not jeasous..she and i are..uh where really close)..because the second also has depression issues, a child with a behavior problem and a young one following along she seems to think that she can come into my home criticize, get rude, nippy she puts too much on her plate then she takes is out on me…if i speak up she then will accuse me “another sister telling me off” or “u must not be taking ur meds” she has crossed bounderies with my son “he is my God child i can spoil him” I say no to something she in front of him will make a rude disrespectful comment or excuse his behavior… isay ask me b4 u invite him over she invites and then says “oh sorry i didnt ask u first”….someone help me dad is not the problem…she is they are, i do nothing right, if i speak up…well she must be on her period, she must not b taking her meds…they have actually caused so much stress tears anxiety that i am back seeing a counseler,…i want to sell the house, give dad to them and leave…but i know it would be toooo much for my son (he is absolutely first)….bye from defeated in ohio…by the way i only have said half of it…there is soooo much more…

    1. Dagny Justice

      I stopped going to anyone except for the asthma once I found out “everything.” Some things are too overwhelming if you are catering to or admtting them all the time. Yeah, my house isn’t in the greatest shape right now, but I’ve got what I need to continue living and maybe helping or affecting other. I don’t want to be remembered as someone who gave up and died in a motocart everyday whining about pain. 😀 Seriously. It is sheer stubbornness that gets me by, and it might be stupid or closeminded but it is what i need…. It might help you…. Don’t have to worry what med counteracts another or what med makes other condtions worse or creates new ones if all you’re taking is what you will absolutely die without. Once you simplify that aspect of life, you start seeing it is not so bad or hard to simplify others you normally wouldn’t have….

  31. Ciara G

    I Need Help With Lupus, Not For Me. Questions, do you have Answers?
    My sister hurt her leg, and my mother says she might have lupus. My mother has lupus as well, and it says that children can have a predisposition to developing the disease, if their parents have it.

    I was wondering, how could I help my sister? I’m only 13, and I want to help her. Please respond quickly, I need to know things that could help. SHE DOES NOT POSITIVELY HAVE LUPUS, IT’S A MAYBE!
    So, please add any other info on someone who has hurt their leg and probably has to stay in bed.
    No, Luciana, (hope I spelled that right, pretty name), I don’t think any of that has ever happened. She’s never had a miscarri—that thing, I know what it is. She has two beautiful daughters, and they’re healthy.

  32. MandyB

    Can Child Protective Services keep my boyfriend from seeing my 4 yr old Daughter?
    CPS was called on my boyfriend after she broke her arm (in a public place) and also because she has been having bruising, canker sore, hair-loss and joint pain. I have taken her to the Dr about all these symptoms and they believe she has an auto immune disease ( they thought lupus but had a negative ANA result from lab, lupus would have shown positive) I am now wondering if they charge him with this can they ban him from ever having contact with my daughter again?

    1. mgunnycappo

      First off, a negative ANA test doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have Lupus. Many people with Lupus have a negative ANA. Lupus is diagnosed through blood work and symptoms. Even if all the blood work comes back negative she could still have Lupus based on her symptoms. Don’t let doctors push you around so easily. Demand and answer.

      Secondly, are you kidding. He should be in jail if he broke your daughter’s arm. You should keep as far away as possible, get a restraining order, change your phone number and never, ever talk to this individual again. He hurt your daughter for god’s sake. And yes, they can prevent him from seeing her if he is abusing her. You need to document it and file paperwork with the courts. In the mean time you should never let him see her. Make him take you to court and then show the judge what he did, he’ll go directly to jail and the court will order him to stay away. Whatever you do, do not let him see her again.

  33. Yvonne

    What can cause kidney damage or failure in a 22 year old?
    After seeing a regular doctor and kidney specialist we have found that my kidneys are not functioning properly. There is protein and blood in urine and a low creatinine clearance level in urine. I don’t know the results of the blood yet. Symptoms are mainly frequent urination, frequent hunger and thirst, headaches, weight loss, fatigue and slight to moderate kidney / lower back pain. We have already ruled out diabetes.

    I am an otherwise healthy 22 year old woman with two children. Never had any major abnormal test results in my life. The major diseases that pop up (besides diabetes) are polycystic kidney disease and lupus.

    The kidney specialist is ordering an ultrasound and biopsy of my kidneys within the next 2 months. I had a CT scan done but she kind of avoided my question when I asked if she found anything. All she said was there were no stones found. I go back and see her next week.

    What the heck can possibly be wrong?
    I am very petite but have never had any eating disorders. I take Tylenol once a month, if that. I am not an alcoholic lol.

  34. Afhr4

    I am a 32 year old, up until recently, generally healthy female. Took a trip in Feb. to AZ and came back with?
    a cough.Then had some teeth pulled. They put me on amoxicilian,a steroid and pain killers. Then everything started falling a part. By day 3 on the meds I began to have swelling in my whole body. Day 4, I was like a round ball.Gained almost 20 pounds in water weight.So swollen the skin under my feet were cracking and bleeding.I began having extreme pain in the right side of my jaw.Went to the E.R,after calling the dentist he said I might be having an allergic reaction to meds. Never had a problem with penicillin before. The hospital kept me for 3 days. I.V. antibiotics and steroids.Tested my blood for everything from Lyme disease to Lupus to rheumatoid arthritis. They said I was now allergic to penicilan.All blood work came back normal. Extremely high white count though. Said I had some sort of infection.They sent me home with a months worth of Doxycyline and more pain meds. Went to reg. doc. they did more blood work came up empty,except for slight anemia,always had that though. Then I began with a weeks worth of prednisone,still on the Doxycyline, pain meds and sleeping pills. Still hadn’t slept through the night for about two weeks. Now begining to get extreme fatigue,then developed night sweats and chills and more swelling and alot of pain. Went back to the doc for more blood work,still all normal. Then developed a painful red bumpy rash ONLY on chest and started coughing up blood.Not alot just dime sized every couple of days. Then getting dizzy and seeing white blurry spots sometimes. They sent me to the specilist,he came up with Valley Fever. Went for that blood work and cultures and also diabetic blood work. Now 2 weeks later the cultures haven’t grown anything, all the blood work has come back normal and have had 2 more trips to the E.R, with all those symptoms and having chest pains,numbness and tingles in my left side of body only. Also having moments of forgetfullness. Everytime I have been to the E.R they did chest x-rays and blood work all kept telling me it was normal. Now on my last visit to the E.R they said I have pnuemonia.Last two chest x-rays were three days part. The first one they said was clear. They are sending me to a Pullminary doctor. Except for having mono in high school and a severe case of pnuemonia 2 years ago(hospitilized for a week) I have never been sick.I have not had fevers or weight loss. Though my appetite has decreased I am still gaining weight. I am only 5’2″ and almost pushing 190 pounds. NOT normal for me. I am not pregnant,had four children then had my tubes tied. I do smoke but am trying to quit. Down to less a pack a day. Can anyone PLEASE PLEASE give me some ides. The doctors have told me they don’t know what is wrong and only treating the symptoms and not the PROBLEM. I have a family history of Lupus,diabetes,heart disease. It all runs rampant through both my parents sides,,them included.
    Let me clear up any confusion. The first specialist I saw stopped all the steroids. As of right now I am taking only Naproxen for the joint swelling and pain killers. He is the one that thought I had this Valley Fever. But the cultures have come negative. They keep dumping me from Doc. to Doc. because of all my tests comming back negative. No one seems to know what is wrong. They are trying to handle only the sypmtoms and not the underlying problem. One says now I have pneumonia. I am not sure about that though. I had it two years ago and it isn’t anything like that.

    1. Jenn

      Could any of the medication throw off your test results for lupus? I think maybe some of you symptoms are a result of the lack of sleep or allergic reaction to the medications. Which is also throwing the doctors off. Can you think of anything you might have done/eaten that would have put you at risk of getting something while out there. What symptoms do you still have since you’ve been back, why did you have your teeth pulled. I would seek a second opinion, or fourth. I wouldn’t stop any medication unless your doctor tells you otherwise.

  35. Crackle

    Aspartame Side Effects?
    Can aspartame really cause side effects such as:
    Eye blindness in one or both eyes
    decreased vision and/or other eye problems such as: blurring, bright flashes, squiggly lines, tunnel vision, decreased night vision
    pain in one or both eyes
    decreased tears
    trouble with contact lenses
    bulging eyes

    Ear
    tinnitus – ringing or buzzing sound
    severe intolerance of noise
    marked hearing impairment

    Neurologic
    epileptic seizures
    headaches, migraines and (some severe)
    dizziness, unsteadiness, both
    confusion, memory loss, both
    severe drowsiness and sleepiness
    paresthesia or numbness of the limbs
    severe slurring of speech
    severe hyperactivity and restless legs
    atypical facial pain
    severe tremors

    Psychological/Psychiatric
    severe depression
    irritability
    aggression
    anxiety
    personality changes
    insomnia
    phobias

    Chest
    palpitations, tachycardia
    shortness of breath
    recent high blood pressure

    Gastrointestinal
    nausea
    diarrhea, sometimes with blood in stools
    abdominal pain
    pain when swallowing

    Skin and Allergies
    itching without a rash
    lip and mouth reactions
    hives
    aggravated respiratory allergies such as asthma

    Endocrine and Metabolic
    loss of control of diabetes
    menstrual changes
    marked thinning or loss of hair
    marked weight loss
    gradual weight gain
    aggravated low blood sugar (hypoglycemia)
    severe PMS

    Other
    frequency of voiding and burning during urination
    excessive thirst, fluid retention, leg swelling, and bloating
    increased susceptibility to infection

    Additional Symptoms of Aspartame Toxicity include the most critical symptoms of all
    death
    irreversible brain damage
    birth defects, including mental retardation
    peptic ulcers
    aspartame addiction and increased craving for sweets
    hyperactivity in children
    severe depression
    aggressive behavior
    suicidal tendencies

    Aspartame may trigger, mimic, or cause the following illnesses:
    Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
    Epstein-Barr
    Post-Polio Syndrome
    Lyme Disease
    Grave’s Disease
    Meniere’s Disease
    Alzheimer’s Disease
    ALS
    Epilepsy
    Multiple Sclerosis (MS)
    EMS
    Hypothyroidism
    Mercury sensitivity from Amalgam fillings
    Fibromyalgia
    Lupus
    non-Hodgkins
    Lymphoma
    Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD)

  36. Sabrina B

    How do I know if I have a uterine infection after giving birth and if Keflex is the right atbc to treat it?
    Hi! I just gave birth to my first child 10 days ago and had really bad complications after the delivery. I was in labor for 27 hours, pushed for an hour, and got the usual Pitocin and epidural. My OB had manually pulled out my placenta immediately after the delivery of my baby and I had not asked him to! I was hemorrhaging for the 1st 2 days. I even passed out 2 hours after I gave birth, as soon as I transferred to the maternity ward! The same night, I was about to pass out a 2nd time and my blood pressure dipped at its lowest. They had to call an emergency code and all of the doctors and nurses rushed into my room. The reason for my postpartum hemorrhage was because I had retained fragments of the placenta in my uterus and a dr. had to manually push the clot out! On top of that, I had a distended bladder and couldn’t urinate on my own, so they had to Foley cath me for 3 days. I didn’t have an episiotomy or any tears, but had a few abrasions inside my vagina. I also had a hematoma on the left labia. I lost so much blood, 55%, I became anemic and was supplemented with a stronger iron than what I was taking during pregnancy. I was on IV fluids for 3 days and stayed in the hospital for 4 days. Ever since I got home, my lochia had been getting less and less but the hematoma on my left labia became so painfully excruciating it had even turned hard even with the sitz baths I’ve been taking. It was so painful every time I went to the bathroom, to urinate or pass a bowel. Even on pain meds, the vaginal pain was so severe, I had to go to the emergency. I was examined and they told me in time, it will heal and go away on its own and the hematoma is too small to cut open and drain.

    Then today I noticed I started bleeding more and even passing big clots, whereas previous days, my bleeding was brown and very small, like dime sized amounts with no clots at all. In addition, I’ve been having extreme severe abdominal pains since this morning. I saw my OB today and he examined my uterus by pressing down on my belly and I grimaced so much because the pain was so bad. He told me it’s not supposed to be that painful at this point, 10 days after giving birth. He concluded that I had a uterine infection and put me on Keflex 4 times a day for 10 days. I’m not sure if he diagnosed me correctly since he only pressed down on my tummy and didn’t run any tests to confirm that it’s an infection. Also, how would he know what kind of antibiotic to prescribe to me if he doesn’t even know what kind of uterine infection is invading me? I know there are different kinds of uterine infections based on the different types of bacteria! I’m a new grad LVN (practical nurse) and even though I haven’t worked since I got pregnant during school, I know that I should be skeptical of something about his diagnosis! I don’t have a fever or any other signs and symptoms of an infection other than the extreme abdominal pain and painful urination/ bowel movements. The emergency department took a urine sample from me and a bladder infection or UTI came out negative so I know I don’t have that! Someone out there please help me! I just want to make sure my OB and medical team during my labor and delivery have the best interest in taking good care of me instead of killing me! I just want to be alive and healthy to raise my daughter and for my uterus to not be affected so I can have more children after this! Thank you so much in advance!

    FYI: I also have Lupus, but a mild form of it since none of my organs are affected….only Raynaud’s Disease and eczema which is about it!

    1. mgunnycappo

      Keflex is a broad spectrum antibiotic and will cover you regardless of what specific bacteria you have. He’s probably giving you the antibiotics as a prophylaxis, just in case. I would venture to say that you’ll improve over the next couple of days.

  37. popstarbria

    Does any one else have Crohn’s Disease?
    I’m 13 years old and I have Crohn’s Disease along with R.S.D. and also Juvenile Arthritis. I could possibly have lupus. I’ve finally figured out how to control most of the Crohn’s Disease flare-ups with natural remedies but my other problems are full fledged still! RSD, Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy, will literally make my legs turn blue, cause me to lose any feeling in my legs and arms and I cannot use my legs sometimes when the flare-ups are really bad! Juvenile Arthritis is something else I could possibly have. No doctor has confirmed it, yet and I’ve had to travel out of town to see rheumotoligists before because the ones in my town didn’t know what to do with my conditions!!!

    When I was 6, I was diagnosed with Crohn’s Disease. Now keep in mind that this was after coming to the hospital about twice a week for about 4 years because my Crohn’s flare-ups were so bad! My mom is a redhead, I like to call her hothead!, and thankfully she won’t take no for an answer!! She was extremely persistent in trying to find the cause in my horrible stomach pain even though almost every time we went to the doctor, they would tell her I was just fine! This was all before I was diagnosed. Eventually, she found a doctor that somewhat understood what we were going through (mainly her at the time, because I was very young) and tried all the possible treatments that could help ease the disease. Even today, there is no cure for Crohn’s Disease!! At 6, the doctor that helped us diagnosed me with Crohn’s Disease and put me through a series of medications including some that children aren’t allowed to take. I took Methotrexate for a long period of time and cannot think of the other medications right now. I now have to wear glasses because of the medicines I took and my family and I are pretty sure that the medications I took caused my other conditions. We’re pretty much certain that the medicines cause my RSD.

    Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD) is an illness that causes the lower and upper extremities to turn a bluish color and causes the extremities to become numb. When I first had a flare-up, it was when I was 11 and my parents thought it was a blood clot. So did the doctors. We went through a series of tests that day because I had to go to the hospital. I was admitted for a week and during that time, I had to get an epidural!!! Yes, that thing pregnant women get! I had to get it because my legs were hurting so bad they had to numb them! We’re still not sure if what I have is RSD, but it’s all we got for now!

    I know this is long and sorry but I only gave you two of my illnesses! lol If any one else has any thing I have, please give me tips on how to control it! Anything will help!!Thank you!!!

    1. Loz

      Hi there. I don’t have Crohne’s Disease, but I’m 25 and I’ve had Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (the correct name for RSD) since I was 14. It started in my right knee following a minor operation, but it now affects almost my whole body and ahs put me in a wheelchair because of some of its secondary effects that no amount of physio or medication has been able to counteract. I’ve never heard of medications causing CRPS/RSD – it’s almost always initiated by some sort of injury or other trauma.

      I wish that I could tell you how to control it – I’ve been through pretty much every recognised treatment with no real success. I guess that my only advice for what it’s worth is to take each day as it comes and to recognise that you are going to have bad days. Don’t give up by any means, but know your limits and boundaries, and know when it is time to say ‘okay’ I’ve had enough and when it is okay to push yourself that little bit harder.

      If I can help in any way, please feel free to email me.

  38. Doo-lang

    Should I give my children condoms for Christmas?
    I have two children, both in high school. One is a sophomore, female. The other is a male, Junior. They both are dating and I am worried they may be having intercourse. This year, for christmas, I think I should give them both condoms. They’d make great stocking stuffers. Some of my friends think this is weird but I just want them to be safe and not catch any of those awful diseases you hear about like HIV, Herpes, Lupus, AIDS, or diabetes. Do you think this is an effective way to encourage them to practice safe sex. Heck, I’d even let them use my bed if they just stay safe. Seriously, I would let them use my bed for sex. I just want my children to be safe. Am I wrong to not want them to do something they’ll regret? Any feedback would be so helpful.

    Thank you,
    Sarah

    1. Samantha

      Great idea!

      Most kids will have sex whether or not *you* make protection available.. so you may as well. Better safe than sorry.. and there might be some red, awkward faces around the Christmas tree, but I bet that they’ll be grateful for it in the end. 🙂

      Happy Holidays!

  39. _

    Medical: What to do?!?
    Im 16. Ive been tested for Lymes disease, Lupus, and I’m sure tons of other things. Im sick of everyone telling me Im “faking”. I went to children’s hospital, and they were rude and not helpful at all, I did what the doctor told me (made a chart of all my symptoms) and they thought i wanted to be sick. I am so flipping sick of all the muscle and joint pain, the sleepless nights, the “clogged” ear and bad hearing, twitches in my muscles, blood in my stools, hair loss, etc. Ive had normal bloodwork.

    Im considering going to the Mayo clinic in Minnesota (I live in Wisconsin) for an appointment. Anyone have ANY ideas? What KIND of doctor should I see? Anyone have similar symptoms of diagnostic ideas? Anything would be appreciated. Thank you.

    1. Doctor J

      What is your Magnesium status? Vitamin D status?

      Have you been tested for Celiac Disease? Other Inflammatory Bowel Diseases?

      Have you been tested for Intestinal Dysbiosis? Leaky Gut Syndrome? Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth?

      These are just a few ideas that should be ruled-out.

      Best wishes and good luck.

      p.s. ‘normal blood work’ doesn’t mean much because there are THOUSANDS of blood tests that can be ordered (at a cost of 10s or 100s of thousands of dollars).

  40. AMBER

    how can i have a better life?
    im 12, almost 13 and i live with my mom, grandma lives down the road. my fathers never been a real big part of my life, but i never really was upset by it. lucky for me, he is kind enough to pay child support and thats all my little family really live by. my mother had kidney cancer in 06, she was believeve 32-36, and i was 6. it took alot of time and money for her to get better, and it seemed like it really scared away alot of our familiy. we also discovered she had an auto immune disease known as lupus. she continues to have major medical issues, and becuase of that, we no longer attend meetings or any otheassociationon with our religion. i have many other medical issues, some owhichch im some what insecure about. we are some what poor, though i do feel iLuckyey in ways to have what i have. all elementary, i was an a+ student, but things now have changed and im getting c’s, even f’s. many peoplbelieveve in my abilities, and push me to do my best, but i feel it puts alot of pressure on my part. i used to be a gifted child, or as my mother says, in gifted classes, but i was not chosen to participate these last two years of middle school. iv been trying to figure out my place in this world as many people my age, and have come to the conclusion that are part is never the same, and situations are never the same.i have a very high anxiety level, and stress has really taken a toll.recently, iv been feeling high pressure from my peers aboumaterialisticic things, such as cell phones, clothing, and homes ( i live in a twin plex) . also, guys are Really takin an interest in me, and im afraid that they will discover who i really am. iv lied many times to my friends about having oldre friends and alot of things to do, wich all are not true at all. i am either at school, home, or rarley at the store or movies. i put out that im strong and happy, but i dont think im stong enough to handle all of this. im not happy with everything in my life, and i just wish there was some 1 i could trust to not judge me. i guess im asking for peoples advice and how u dealt with situations similar to mine. plaese help me.

  41. FoxDude14

    Idk what to do anymore… I need something positive?
    I think this is more just to kinda vent but here it goes:
    a few months ago my best friend got diagnosed with lupus and isn’t the healthiest child alive… She spends at least 2 days a week in the ER. She’ll most likely have to go through chemotherapy, and today she told me she’d rather die at this point, she might not do chemo and slowly let the disease kill her… Today she was told she can’t go back to school for at least a month, all her other friends ditched her for being sick… So she’s going to be home schooled. Then on Thursday night my uncle who I’m very close with got beat up by a gang, almost beat him to death. He’s in critical condition with a brain injury and bleeding from the brain. Nobody knows if he will survive and going to the hospital to see him stresses him out so I can’t see him at all. Then on Friday one of my other cousins’ husband got the exact same brain injury from falling off a ladder, he died late Monday night. My teachers are on my case for not handing in a few assignments because of everything that’s happened lately and how they need to get marks for report cards, I could really care less about thY right now but when I try to explain what’s going on right now they say it’s not there problem, I should be responsible. I’ve been getting physically sick from thinking of everything that’s going on all of a sudden. I don’t know what to do anymore, it’s almost 3am, I havent slept in about 24-30 hours and haven’t ate in 2 days… I’m 16, wtf should/can I do??

    1. Ann_Marie_Monica

      i was diagnosed with lupus a few month after i turned 17th birthday, they found out i had it because me elbow was as big as an orange and it was stuck in the bent position when i woke up one day and they miss diagnosed it at first as rheumatoid arthritis.
      Ill be 22 on the 17th i have 2 kids, a girl that will be 3 December 8 and a boy that is 18 months his birthday is April 22.
      on July 14, 2009 my son was a couple months old he started crying at about 7 in the morning witch was not normal for him so i tried to give him a bottle and hold him but he just kept crying, it was like he didn’t want me to go back to sleep a few min. later I started to feel weird and stared to shake even tho it was 90 degrees out side 74 in the house and i was cover up with a conferrer. i started to forget where i was but by then i was on the phone with me grand mother. she took me to my Dr and the rushed me in the back to take my blood pressure and temp my blood pressure was 200/100 and my temp was 105.5 they called the ambulance and the last thing i remember that day was the putting me in the back of them ambulance and them trying to start an iv and blood squirting all over the ambulance. and i ended up being in the incentive care unit for a little over a month. I got a staff infection from the hospital that i had to get scraped out and stay another week for and a few other times.
      i know what you and you friend are going throw, 2 of my aunts have lupus to and another one is waiting for her results to come back.
      That was the worse time of my life i missed my sons 3rd month of life and my daughter was mad at me because she thought i left her i still have major depression issues and every time i get sick i freak out and think that in going to have to stay in the hospital again and neither of my kids will stay with anyone else.
      i still couldn’t walk when i got out of the hospital but it been over a year and i haven’t had a lupus flare sense so it dose get better i though i would never be the same again although i do have a lot of headache and pain it is better then not being able to walk and see my kids.

      im sorry to here about you uncles too that is really sad and sucks how can people be so mean an it sucks when accidents like that happen and you cant do anything about it.

      if either of you need some one to talk to you can contact me if you would like to. hope every thing gets better.

  42. Doo-lang

    My son loves me but I hate him. How should I tell him?
    My son, Tebbins, is currently 27 and although he is my son and I have raised him ever since he was an infant, I sort of hate him. He is a loser. Doesn’t have a girlfriend at all. Has no non-internet friends and eats pistachio nuts all day long (which I clean up). He never goes out except for on the weekends when he volunteers at a hospital for children who have lupus, which he also has (and won’t shut up about it). He’s constantly telling me about all this medication he’s on, all these appointments he goes to, symptoms of the disease, etc. but I don’t have the patience to hear him wine about his little problems when I work the night shift 5 days a week as a custodian at the local Walmart (it’s a miserable job, but in this economy, I had to take any job I could find). My husband, on the other hand, LOVES Tebbins with all his heart. He practically encourages Tebbins to act like a bafoon, and is constantly undermining my authority. If I say Tebbins can’t go to his appointment because he needs to fold laundry, my husband always gives in and lets him go. (Guess who then has to fold the laundry) My husband works at a local driving school as a driving instructor and serves part time in the National guard. I like my other children, I really do. I always get them ice cream and forget to get ice cream for Tebbins. He just plain sucks and I don’t know if I have the courage to tell him how I feel. However, as his mother, I feel that I should be honest with him. I really want to kick him out. What should I do?

    Thanks,
    Susan

    1. IgiveGOODadvice

      wow, lady i can’t believe what you’re saying. how can you hate your own son?!?!?!? i thought that was impossible? and you “like” your other children!?? not love?!? what is that? i think you need to seek help. that is definitely not normal!

  43. angel

    hereditary or coincidence?
    I work in the med field, and have asked this question, best I can get from doctors is “gee, I dunno, maybe.” So I’m asking opinions, and if anyone else has a similar story I’m interested in what you think…
    My mother is epileptic. Her seizures are triggered by stress, lack of sleep, or physical illness.
    All three of her children have auto immune issues. 1 sister has severe physical reactions to pregnancy. The theory we got from doctors is that her immune system goes on attack and treats the baby like a disease. Possibly its the hormone that triggers it.
    The other sister has lupus, also auto immune, moderate and manageable.
    And I have vitiligo. My immune system attacks pigment like a disease.
    My nephew has chronic severe migraines. We can’t find a cause. He also used to scream in his sleep and shake when he was a baby, so we suspected HE had epilepsy, too, but he’s never had a seizure and it stopped when he was about seven or eight. He also sleepwalks.
    And finally, my niece has severe juvenile arthritis. A month ago, she had an anaphylactic reaction to the smell of shrimp, and doctor says she now can not be around fish or shellfish at ALL. (She grew up on red lobster. No idea why, but I know allergies are unpredictable.)
    And finally, my youngest niece constantly catches colds, flu, pneumonia, ear infections. I mean if you sneeze twenty yards away on a windless day in july, she’ll get it. She also gets pretty severe eczema. She has a weak immune system.
    So here’s my question(s)-
    1. Are auto immune illnesses hereditary, or is my family an anomaly?
    2. Is it possible that all three of us were affected by moms epilepsy or by the meds she was using back then? (phenobarb, and something else that was commonly used in the 60s and 70s to treat epilepsy but was banned, can’t think of the name, so help with that too would be great.)
    3. If I were to have a child, is it pretty much guaranteed that something would be wrong with it?
    5150- no, we don’t live together, but we do all live in the same city. We don’t live in an area where we are exposed to any higher-than-average toxins. As far as I’ve been able to tell, there are not unusually high numbers in any of these illnesses in this area, either.

    1. Amanda

      There are studies that show that there CAN be a genetic link, but the sciences are inconclusive on it.

      2. It’s possible that the medication had an effect. My grandmother took medication for morning sickness and my mother and I BOTH have had endometriosis and autoimmune disorders after that. Before then, no one had endo.

      3. It’s not guaranteed, but I would be cautious just because it seems to be hereditary in yours even if science can’t prove it is.

  44. benraze2001

    For people with Lupus, is there any way to counter the effects of sunlight exposure other than sunscreen?
    I have only recently been advised that I may be suffering from a connective tissue disease. Upon doing some research it appears that the most appropriate diagnosis is Lupus. I have an appointment with a rheumatologist in a few days, but I was wondering if anyone with Lupus has any tips for coping.

    I turn 28 in a few days, I’m married and have three children under the age of 4. After even a half hour in direct sunlight, I will wake up the next morning with a debilitating migraine that takes 5 excedrin migraine and about 16-20 hours to get rid of. I want to be able to take my family to the pool, water park, Disney, etc. without them having to accommodate for my issues. (I also recently bought season tickets for the Jaguars and I’ll be darned if I’m gonna miss a game ^_^ ).

    Anything I have to do in terms of treatment, drugs, etc. I’ve got no problem with if it only effects me, but the things that affect my family or my ability to interact with them are what hurts the most. Any suggestions or personal experiences are greatly appreciated.

  45. ♥Cуαиι∂є♥ [Sтιℓℓ єχтяα ℓєтнαℓ..]

    “Oh, God is just TESTING us”.. But why exactly?
    So, when faced with things such as the problem of evil, it seems like a lot of theists, and ESPECIALLY Christian ones, come up with the following explanation: “God is just testing us in order to see if we are worthy!” I just have a few questions in regards to that:

    1. What exactly would be the point of such a “test”? If your god is omniscient, he would already KNOW the outcome, right?

    2. In order for the test to be fair, shouldn’t we all have the same basic conditions? Letting some people be crazy rich like Bill Gates and letting others stave to death in Africa, letting some people be indoctrinated into Christianity from day one and other people grow up in a mostly Shinto or Taoist society where no one ever talks about your god, Yahweh, is about as fair as giving a class of children different tests where SOME of them get asked easy things such as “how much is 2×2?” and others get asked “how exactly do quantum mechanics work?”.

    3. What exactly would be the PURPOSE of this “test” anyway? What would one prove to an omnipotent being by living a miserable, desolate life where everything goes contrary to one’s plans and one randomly ends up contracting some horrible disease like, say, Lupus, Alzheimer’s, cancer or schizophrenia? What is the POINT? What is suffering going to prove?

    4. Wouldn’t such a test be contrary to a god’s supposed benevolence, if you indeed believe he/she/it is benevolent? The whole concept reminds me of an activity I used to entertain myself with as a child: I’d fill a bucket with water and put living ants into it. I’d also put a floating leaf like an island in the middle. I’d sit there with a smirk on my face, filled with glee, while watching the poor ants struggle and die. Only the ones that made it to the leaf would survive to be released.

    Entertaining? Yes, it was at the time.
    Benevolent? I don’t think so.

    ..What say you? =)

    1. chopped_liver

      saying that God is just testing us is just an excuse people use for the bad things that happen in the world. Its easier to say that God made them happen, which in fact is not true. God is not controlling anything in this world, we have complete free will and he is not the one making bad things happen, they happen on their own because people have the choice to sin or not sin.

  46. Gabby124

    Hypocondria And Depression?
    I got sick 4 years ago after I got the gardasil shot but then again I moved to New Jersy from Pennsylvania.It started with a bloody nose and a coldtype feeling so I called my doc and he perscribed antibiotics which didnt help so he kept trying new meds and finally I got this horrible pressure in my head and face and I felt very fatigue and lightheaded so he gave me prednisone which made my heart race and some some type of panic attack which landed me in the ER. After that I been feeling the same way sometimes for moths at a time.I been to every doctor and had so many tests done such as

    Anemia
    Thyroid
    Diabetes
    Lupus
    Lyme Disease
    Complete Blood Count
    Clotting Problems
    Arthritis
    CT Of The
    CT Of The Sinuses
    Chest X-Ray
    MRI Of The Brain
    MRI Of The Entire Spine
    Ct Of The Abdomen
    EKG
    Echcardiogram
    24 Hour Halter Monitor
    Stress Test
    Ultrasound Of My Legs
    Thyroid Ultrasound

    AND THEY WERE ALL NORMAL!!!!!
    I am only 21 with a child and I just want my life back also my symptoms are…

    Fatigue
    Brain Fog
    Head Pressure
    Face And Jaw Pressure
    Anxiety/Pain Attacks
    Heart Palpatations
    Light Headed
    Feels Like Im Spaced Out
    And there are more I just cant remember right now.

  47. theonlywritingmommy

    can one have had lyme disease for years w/o knowing?
    i have been searching for years for dx to pain and fatigue that doctor all initially think is lupus, or RA. blood never supports dx totally. recently tested for lyme but results neg. am frustrated and getting hopeless. pain is becoming more consistent; was sporadic, now more often than not. was diagnosed with rheumatic fever as a child and justremembered that we spent summers in uvalde tx wilderness at that time. really need to know what is trying to take over my life.

  48. Beewally

    match these questions please…?
    Hemophilia
    thymus
    bone marrow
    communicable disease
    red blood cells
    white blood cells
    platelets
    spleen
    disease
    inherited disease
    acquired disease
    immune system
    pathogen
    llymph nodes
    down syndrome
    leukocytes
    b-cells
    natural killer cells
    dendritic cells
    phagocytosis
    pus
    acquired immunity
    passibe immunity
    immunodeficiency disorder
    SCID
    autoimmune disorder
    lupus
    lymphoma and leukemia
    acute stress
    chronic stress

    1: Principle upon which childhood vaccination is based.
    2: Researchers think that these cells are responsible for transmitting HIV to T-cells in order to activate an immune system
    3: Filters antigens out of the blood; acts as the immune system’s cleaning agent.
    4: Small, bean-shaped clusters that also helps filter the body’s infection fighting system
    5: The result of a sudden or uncontrollable thing such as a natural disaster, or surgical procedure.
    6: Main function is the production of antibodies in response to antigens such as bacteria, viruses, and tumor cells.
    7: Carries oxygen throughout the body.
    8: White blood cells.
    9: Produces T-cells which are responsible for immunity and disease resistance.
    10: Means that all or part of the immune system is unable to properly respond to the presence of an antigen.
    11: A white or yellowish fluid that forms from a collection of dead tissue, dead bacteria, and live and dead phagocytes.
    12: A condition caused by an abnormal chromosome.
    13: A disease that is passed through the genes froom parent to child.
    14: Caused by an inherited abnormal gene.
    15: An acquired disease that is contagious.
    16: The interuption or disorder to normal body functions.
    17: When the immune system cannot distinguish between normal body tissue and antigens and launches an attack against the normal tissue.
    18: Types of Autoimmune Disorders.
    19: Involves antibodies that are produced in someone’s body otherthan your own. Protection is temporary.
    20: A process by which leukocytes known as phagocytes consume microorganisms and dead or dying cells.
    21: Caused by infection, human behaviors, or environmental conditions that affect health.
    22: Performs much like T-cells, only they directly kill tumor cells.
    23: Infection fighting cells.
    24: The body’s defense system against disease.
    25: A birth defect that results in a lack of both T- and B- lymphocytes and you are unable to fight infection. Also known as the “Bubble Boy Disease.”
    26: Produes red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets.
    27: A disease causing organism.
    28: It’s daily and on-going – such as lack of sleep, long-term physical pain, and day-to-day hassles such as traffic.
    29: General types of cancer hat can happen to the immune system.
    30: Cells which help the blood to clot.

  49. Skleego

    False report to Child Services question?
    My families ex-friends hate blacks. My mom agreed to be our neighbor’s new born child’s godparents. Well since they are black the ex friends got mad and decided to pull some crap.

    First they call my mom’s pain doctor and tells him that my mom sells her drugs and begs (the ex-friends) for their meds. That is a lie. But now because of that call my mom can’t get her medication. She needs these meds for lupus, arthritis, limes disease, and about 13 other diseases.

    Second: They report our neighbors to Child Services stating that they starve the kids. ALSO A LIE.

    Third: Today on my mom’s birthday they call Child Services stating that my brother and father sexually assault my sister, and that they have walked in on her giving my brother oral sex and father engaged in sex.

    Well that is all more lies. Child Services came and opened up an investigation on us. They would not tell us who reported us but we found out through another way.

    A friend of ours and our ex-friends called them to talk and they said. “Yeah I sent a birthday gift she’ll never forget” with that being the call from Child Services and the threat of losing her kids.

    We now have it confirmed that they falsely reported us. Is there a way that we can contact the police and have them arrested for “Disturbing the Peace” or “Slandering a name” or “Assault”? Please help

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